Thursday, December 31, 2009

On to 2010

I am behind in blogging~ shocking, eh?

Not so much. LOL

I have a lot of catching up to do. In the 12 Days of Giving I limited myself to 30 minutes of Internet time a day. I only cheated once, on a day when I was very sick. I extended the "30 minutes a day" to the end of the month. Because of this, I am so far behind in everything. I haven't really checked my e-mail for almost a month. It's almost comical.

Today will not be the day I catch up, in case you were wondering.


Today is New Year's Eve. Tonight Nick, Lila and I will go to a New Year's Eve party. Justin will be hanging out with friends, and Tiffani will be home on the couch because she really doesn't feel well. Which pretty much sucks.

Tomorrow is New Year's Day, and then the holidays will be over. On to 2010. I'm ready for it.

2009 has been a pretty good year, and I have much to be thankful for. So, so much. A very supportive and loving family, the best parents anyone could ask for, 3 awesome kids and an amazing husband. Oh, and the greatest friends. I am a blessed woman.

I'm not big on New Year's Resolutions. If you are, that's cool. I'm just not. I did, however, come across a challenge today on a blog that I just started following. I wanted to share it here.


The Challenge

So the challenge I’ve been carrying around in my pocket for the last couple of weeks is to view every person I come across – whether on the basketball court, behind the counter at a convenience store, sitting next to me in a classroom, or in the state prison I’m interning at – as someone created in the image of God and someone whom Christ Jesus died for.

It reminds me that people are not a means to an end, but are an end in and of themselves. Jesus, the great rabbi, is teaching me to see people as they truly are.

Perhaps you’ll try this for a week. Try to remember in all your dealings with others that each person you encounter is no mere mortal, but a son or daughter of God, and as such, is of infinite worth. Then treat them accordingly. Believe in their potential as you place a crown above their head.


So I'm going to insert my "people" into the challenge. I'm going to try and remember that every person I come across- whether at Lila's school, or in the grocery store, or at the therapy center, or the doctor's office- as someone created in the image of God and someone Jesus died for.

I think it's a challenge worth taking.

Happy New Year, everyone. I hope it's a great one!

Hugs~


Linda

Sunday, December 20, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Day 10

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On the 10th day of Giving, I had the privilege of riding along to North Carolina with my friend Bethany. She had gone to great lengths to make her 10th Day of Giving spectacular. You can read about it here.

Bethany and I had a great time together, even though she made me stay up entirely too late. LOL

The best part? We were able to bless a family with lots of presents under their tree.




The family? You might know them. Kristen, Scott and Ethan. You can read about it here on Kristen's blog.

It was such a blessing to meet their family and to be a part of this Christmas miracle. As Kristen said in her blogpost, "Blessings Runneth Over."

I'm just not sure who felt more blessed- the recipients or the givers.

Hugs~


Linda

12 Days of Giving- Day 9

Yeah, yeah, I know. The 12 Days of Giving have come and gone. But I have pictures I want to share! Taken with my very own "point and shoot". (That was for you, Bethany)

Seriously, though, the 12 Days of Giving was such a fabulous idea and I loved participating. Good for my soul, it was.

Day 9 was all about giving to a Head Start family. Our women's club adopted a family that consisted of a woman and her 3 children. To qualify for Head Start, a family of 4 cannot earn more than $22,000 a year.

The response from our club was amazing. I had the pleasure of collecting the gifts and taking them to the Head Start office.




(Are you wondering how many "car pictures" I will post? I tried to change it up a little this time.)

When I arrived at the Head Start office, I was greeted by the nicest people. Thank goodness, because they helped me carry all of the gifts down the long hallway to their office. They were so excited about all of the presents~ wrapped and tagged by the members of our club.

One of the women walked me back to my car. She asked me to pass along a huge thank you to the women in our club. She told me that we had seriously made an impact on the family we had adopted. She said, "You don't even know what you have done for this family." I couldn't even respond to her because I was all choked up. She saw my tears, and said, "Well, maybe you do." I told her that I was aware, and so happy to be a part of it.

She tried to shake my hand, and I hugged her instead.

She said, "Hopefully we will see you next year!"

I'm pretty sure she will.

Hugs~


Linda

Monday, December 14, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Day 8- In Memory of Sam

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My friends Maria and Jason lost their son Sam to a brain tumor when he was 7 months old. I asked Maria to tell a little of Sam's story.

Here it is:

Sam was born with a heart defect and went through 2 major open heart surgeries before he was even 6 months. After his second surgery he was a cheery and happy little baby boy. We felt so blessed and so grateful that he had come so far. At about 7 months, we thought he had a flu. He stopped eating, and whenever he did eat, he threw up...A LOT. We noticed that he stopped moving on one side of his body.

He was too young to tell us anything so because of his already fragile health status and the impact a simple flu could have on his heart we took him to DC Children's to have him evaluated. He was tested for everything all day long...and nothing came of the testing. He was admitted for dehydration and they scheduled a CT Scan (just to be safe...) at 1 am.

I spent the night and Jason made the long drive back to Ashburn so he could go to work. We were used to this routine and I didn't mind the chair...after all, we thought it was fluids for the night and then a discharge in the morning.

At 1am the nurse woke me up and asked if I wanted to walk down to CT for Sam's scan. Of course, I did. It's a big scary looking machine for such a small little baby. I put him on the machine, wrapped him in a blanket and covered him up with the lead blanket. He kept his pacifier in. He looked at me once and then I sat in a corner chair while the test was being done. I could see all the doctors and Xray techs standing in the observation room. It was starting to take a long time. One of the doctor's came out and asked me if this was Sam's first scan. I asked why...sensing there was something wrong, he said it was a routine question.

When the test was over, I picked him up and put him back on the crib and he was wheeled back to his room. No one spoke to me or looked at me. I was scared. About an hour later a doctor came in Sam's room and sat down next to me. She said, "The CT Scan detected a large mass in the left ventricle of Sam's brain, he also has severe hydrocephalus. We are going to transfer him to the ICU right now."

I can't describe what this feels like. I had no idea what to think or say. I looked at Sam and he was asleep and didn't seem scared and that was my only comfort.

The following day Sam had an MRI and it confirmed our worst nightmare. He had a massive inoperable brain tumor that had spread throughout his spine. He was given a few days to live.

We brought him home to hospice care and he died in our bed, peacefully and quietly just 3 days later. I miss him everyday.


This is Sam, about a week before he died, in his daddy's arms.




I have made a donation to Katie's Kids in memory of Sam. I never met Sam, but have the pleasure of knowing his brothers JJ and Mark, along with his sister Cora.

Hug your precious kids today~


Linda

P.S. The woman that started Katie's Kids had a brain tumor herself and has an extraordinary story. She was such a passionate advocate for pediatric brain tumor research! For more on her, click here.

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Blogging interrupted...............

I'm sitting here this morning, having accidentally slept too late to go to church, listening to music on a Christian radio station. Life has been so crazy that I haven't finished blogging about 12 Days of Giving, which has touched my life so tremendously I can't even find the words to explain. I have 5 blog posts saved that I need to finish and publish, which I will.


But that's not the point of this post.


So I'm sitting here, listening to music, trying to find just the right picture of Lila for our Christmas card, when a song comes on the radio that stops all progress.

And soon, tears are streaming down my face.


These are the words to the song:

You lived among the least of these
The weary and the weak
And it would be a tragedy for me to turn away.

All my needs you have supplied.
When I was dead you gave me life.
How could I not give it away so freely?

And I`ll follow you into the homes that are broken.
Follow you into the world.
Meet the needs for the poor and the needy God.
Follow you into the world.

Use my hands use my feet
To make your kingdom come
Through the corners of the earth
Until your work is done
`cause faith without works is dead
And on the cross your blood was shed
So how could I not give it away so freely?

And I'll follow you into the homes that are broken.
Follow you into the world.
Meet the needs for the poor and the needy God.
Follow you into the world.


Hugs~

Linda

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Day 7

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Today I did my regular Meals on Wheels route. I participate in our local Meals on Wheels program 3 times a month. I love, love, love the people on my route. I've mentioned my older gentleman friend with the kind blue eyes before, but they are all sweet.

I only have 5 people on my route, so it's no problem to get it done before it's time to pick Lila up from school. If I have any spare time, I go around and talk to the people playing games at the Senior Citizen's Center. They are so funny and sweet!

Today, as I was preparing the meals to take into the 4th house, I realized that I was taking the last meals out of the carriers. Oh, no! They didn't pack enough meals!

I checked the book to see if special instructions had been given for today. Sadly, there they were. It said in the book that Mrs. S. had passed away last week, and that Mr. S was now participating in a day program and he was adjusting well.

I'm glad I checked the book- I don't really need to anymore as I have the route memorized. There was a note in there for me, thanking me for something I had done a couple of months ago.

For a little history on the situation, Mr. and Mrs. S have been on my route since I started delivering Meals on Wheels, but for about 6 months I only delivered one meal to their house as Mrs. S was in a rehabilitation center. On the day she was scheduled to return home, only one meal was included for them that day. When I arrived at the house, I was told that Mrs. S. would be home in a few minutes from the rehab center. Knowing that I didn't have a meal for her, I volunteered to go back and pick another one up.

I headed over to the Senior Citizens Center to request another meal. All the extra meals had already been given away, and they didn't have any more. Not giving up, I asked to speak to the head of the program. She was so thrilled that I cared enough to go out of my way for Mr. and Mrs. S, she gave up her own lunch! I brought it back over to the home of Mr. and Mrs. S and they were very grateful.

This was never mentioned again until today, when the family had left a note for me, thanking me for my kindness. I stood in that driveway and cried.


Delivering Meals on Wheels isn't glamorous, by any means, but I love it.



Making a difference- reaching out to others- being the hands and feet of Jesus- that's what it's all about!

Hugs~

Linda

Monday, December 7, 2009

Count your blessings today.....................

An inspiring story that many of you have probably seen before. If not, enjoy.

NieNie

Hugs~

Linda

Sunday, December 6, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Days 4, 5 and 6

Day 4- The Playdate of Giving

I hosted at Playdate at my house of Friday. A Playdate with a twist. I asked people to donate new/gently used items to the Good Shepherd Alliance, an organization that has various ministries to benefit the homeless in our county. When I sent out the invitation, I acknowledged that it might seem odd to host a playdate asking people to bring donation items for a thrift store. Times are tough right now, and there are people that can't afford to buy their families new items for Christmas. Shopping at a thrift store might be their only option. The response was great~ everyone that came to the playdate participated.

I made meatballs & sauce, pasta and salad for lunch. We had a great time! The kids all played and the moms all sat around and talked. Of course. It's what we do.

I've said it before but I'll say it again~ we are so blessed to have each other. There were 9 families represented- each have at least one child with Down Syndrome in their family. And that's not even half of our group! What an awesome support group we have. I am so thankful for them.

Here's the loot in the back of our car:



Day 5- Going through Lila's "stuff"

Because I was busy cooking and cleaning for the Playdate of Giving, I didn't have a chance to go through Lila's stuff to find things to donate. (Apparently I leave everything to last minute.)

Ahem
..........

Nick helped me, and we came up with 1 big box of toys and a bag of clothes to give.

Day 6- Giving a boost on boostup.org

boostup.org is an organization that encourages disadvantaged young people to graduate from high school. Most of these kids come from broken homes, live in inner city neighborhoods, become parents at a young age, etc. The easy thing to do would be to drop out of high school. But these kids are doing their best to stay in school. Check out the website- it's pretty inspiring.

I sent a boost to David, an 18 year old sophomore from the Bronx. David has to work part-time to help support his adoptive family. He also has to find the strength to avoid the criminal elements in his neighborhood. I chose David because his face reminded me of a little boy I tutored in DC before Lila was born.

Hugs~

Linda

Life with Bubba, Chicky and Nika

Mac N Cheese

Lila and I made macaroni and cheese together this week and here's the proof:





Hugs~

Linda

12 Days of Giving and why it's important to me

Since I am blessed to know Bethany in real life, I knew about the 12 Days of Giving before she actually put it on her blog. I was so excited to be involved!

You see, before this.....................




and this.........................



it was just the three of us.



I won't go into all of the details of our private life, but I will say that God has brought the three of us through some very dark places. Emotionally, financially and spiritually.

When Tiffani and Justin were young, and we had very little, we started the tradition of adopting a family for Christmas.

I was trying to instill in them:

You always have something to give, no matter how little you have

You will always be able to find someone that has less than you do

Giving is better than receiving

By blessing others you will be blessed


I was blessed to be part of a family growing up that didn't have much financially, but we had love that overflowed. I remember many times when we barely had enough to eat ourselves, but we invited people over for dinner.

Christmas wasn't a time when we were showered with gifts. We definitely got presents, but that wasn't what it was about at our house. It was about much more than that.

I loved our traditions, singing carols around the tree, with my mom at the piano. And then my dad would read the Christmas story out of the Bible, Luke Chapter 2. I can still say it by heart and when I think about my dad reading it, my eyes get all misty. Like they are right now.

That's the good stuff. So if you're reading this and you are not reaching out to others this Christmas season, I hope that the 12 Days of Giving will inspire you to do so.

Giving to others is the Reason for the Season.

Hugs~

Linda

Life with Bubba, Chicky and Nika

Thursday, December 3, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Day 3- Prayer

I was going to post about a few things I did today that related to giving. I decided that today, they weren't important enough to mention.

Today the most important gift I have given is prayer. Prayer for 2 friends, that are in very different, but very heartbreaking situations.

A friend of mine from high school was told by her husband this week that their marriage is over. They have been married over 20 years and have 3 kids. She is heartbroken, the kids are a wreck. My heart just breaks for this family. I am familiar with divorce and know personally that the effects are far-reaching. Please say a prayer for my friend and her family.

Another friend of mine was admitted into the hospital in the middle of the night last night- she is 23 weeks pregnant. The baby stopped growing about 3 weeks ago- and short of a miracle will not survive. My friend's health is failing- her kidneys are shutting down, and there are other issues. The story is not mine to tell and I hesitate to share many details. I will say that it is a very grave situation. Please say a prayer for their family as the next few days will be very difficult for them. Say a prayer for her health, and for their broken hearts.

Hugs~

Linda



Life with Bubba, Chicky and Nika

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Twelve Days of Giving- Day 2

The blessings were flowing today! It was a crazy day, with an observation in Lila's classroom at 9:30 am, which went very well, then making macaroni and cheese with Lila for lunch~ pictures to be published soon~ a parent-teacher conference at 2:00 pm, speech therapy at 5:00 pm, and my women's club board meeting at 7:30 p.m. Not to mention the fact that I just wrote the most amazing run-on sentence ever! LOL It's been a busy day.

I didn't have time for any deep thoughts like yesterday! (Ha Ha) But I am very fortunate to have passed along the following blessings:


Making brownies for the ladies in the office at Lila's school.


Buying boots for Lila's caregiver, the single mom. ( I have never asked her if it's ok to mention her in my blog, so I'm not calling her by name here.)


I have a thing for helping single moms, they are very near and dear to my heart! When I asked her what she wanted for Christmas she asked for a pair of boots- she was half-joking but I could tell she really wanted them. I finally got her shoe size and was able to pick them up for her today. I hated to give them to her early, but I wanted to make sure they fit her. With return policies becoming more strict, I thought it might turn into a big ordeal if she had to return/exchange them, so I gave them to her. She absolutely loved them and was so appreciative. And they fit. YAY!

Oh, yeah, I also let Tiffani borrow my umbrella, which left me without one, and it was pouring outside. Does that count? Maybe I should have saved that one for tomorrow. LOL

I'm excited about Day 3- I have absolutely no idea what I will do, but the possibilities are endless.

Hugs~

Linda


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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

12 Days of Giving- Day One

Giving some thought to the 12 Days of Giving, my mind somehow wandered to the Book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. I suppose this happened because of some conversations that Bethany and I have had about the 12 Days of Giving. She wants to inspire us to give- not just to give money, but giving of ourselves. She wants us to be challenged, as she is challenging herself to find new ways to give.

The Five Love Languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gift Giving, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. I would venture to say that I have two main expressive love languages instead of one~ Gift Giving and Acts of Service. Since gift giving and acts of service come most naturally to me, I have decided to take the challenge in a different direction. To force myself out of my comfort zone, I am going to be exploring the other 3 Love Languages; Words of Affirmation, Quality Time and Physical Touch.

One of the things I haven't been very good at lately is Quality Time- actually being present. You know, like not checking e-mail while trying to have a conversation with a family member. Actually listening. Giving undivided attention.

Tonight I limited myself to 30 minutes of internet time to be more present with my family. I'm not sure that this is a realistic goal for every night of the week, but it definitely needs to happen more often.

I feel like I'm off to a slow start here, but I'm thinking of this as a life challenge, not just a 12 day challenge.

As a side note, I gave away the dinner I had planned for tonight- a rotisserie chicken- to one of Lila's caregivers. She's a single parent and she works so hard to provide for her two sons. It makes me happy to do things for her- she is so appreciative and grateful.


It really is more blessed to give than to receive.

Thanks, Bethany, for this challenge. Not for all of us to brag about what we are doing for others, but to share our experiences. To motivate and inspire each other to pay it forward with spontaneous acts of kindness.

In the words of Albert Schweitzer:

"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by the spark of another person."


Hugs~

Linda

Life with Bubba, Chicky and Nika